Last Sunday was the farewell party for Baylight Church Community, a place I considered my spiritual home for a good chunk of my adult years. For something that existed for about 11 years, it ended with some good food and old friends. In a way, it was fitting, but in another way, I think I’m still processing the close of something that played such a formative role during my twenties.
I still remember joining this small group of folks in a living room (with buckets of KFC) back in early 2002, having never really heard of church planting. We didn’t have a name, just a vision – to be a church-planting church that thrilled the heart of God. Looking back, there were so many different ways I could have gone – I had just graduated college, started my first job, and was looking for a place to call my church home. I could’ve ended up in a myriad of other good, solid churches in the South Bay, but God led me to this ragtag bunch of people. It turned out to be a brilliant fit for me. Baylight ended up being a place that deeply shaped the person I am today.
How can I encapsulate a decade of influence on my life in a simple little blog post? I can’t. But here’s a sampling of the many blessings that came through this incredible group of people called Baylight Church Community.
I received incredible mentoring and coaching as I learned how to be a Christ-centered adult without the same all-encompassing support structure that I had during my college days.
I learned about church planting, discipleship, multiplication, worship, and leadership. More importantly, I saw it practiced.
I saw first hand what Christ-honoring marriages looked like. I also saw first hand how to weather hard stuff and resolve conflict.
I got to be a part of some incredible small group communities that loved me and supported me.
I got engaged, I got married, and I had my first child while in this community, and we learned so much from the people around us about each of those life transitions.
I preached my first sermon there, and many more after that. I got coaching, feedback, and practice in communicating the Word of God. Thanks everyone for bearing with me through some lengthy introductions and no doubt some rambling talks.
I got to be a pastoral intern with three other fantastic men and two great mentors who pushed me to be honest, loving, and faithful.
I got to serve on the pastoral staff there. We did some cool things, we wrestled through tough and challenging discussions about church, we ate a lot of food, and I learned so much in the process.
I was challenged to live intentionally, missionally, and incarnationally in everything.
The idea of shalom as a central rallying point solidified during my time at Baylight.
We launched out five years ago from Baylight to start a church in SF and received such a tremendous amount of support in our journey.
We made some really, really good friends there who have been with us through thick and thin.
And there’s so much more that could be written. I’m so thankful for the people I met along the way and for the great things that God will continue to do through those people for years to come. It was a great ride. For those of you who were a part of my spiritual journey at Baylight, I sincerely thank you.
For me, I didn’t start believing something could happen for the Giants this year until this at-bat – Giants up 6 to 4, Sergio Romo versus the mighty Jay Bruce with two men on in Game 5 of the NLDS, October 11, 2012:
Marcia and I were huddled in the kitchen with KNBR on, nervously cleaning and waiting for Bruce to either hit a homer and end the Giants season or for Romo to emerge victorious. Little did I know it would be the start of something truly special.
Question marks about Buster Posey’s ability to regain his old form after his devastating injury in 2011. But instead he puts up MVP numbers.
Brian Wilson went down in his second appearance back in April, supposedly dooming the Giants relief corps. But Sergio, Santiago, and Jeremy more than get it done.
Melky Cabrera, he of the .346 batting average, gets suspended for performance enhancing drugs, but his replacement, Gregor Blanco ends up being a key cog for the team.
Tim Lincecum has his worst season ever, and the worst first half of any pitcher in the NL, but comes back to be lights out in relief in the playoffs.
The Dodgers make a blockbuster trade to net guys like Adrian Gonzalez, but fall short by eight games.
Down 0-2, the Giants come back to beat Cincinnati in five games on the road.
Down 3-1, the Giants come back to win three straight against the defending champs, the Cardinals.
A thrown ball that hits second base for an error by the Cards. A broken bat triple hit double by Pence. A ball that bounces of third base for a double by Pagan. Diving grabs by Blanco and Crawford.
It brought a city together. Giants signs, flags, and shirts everywhere. Random high fives.
The three guys I mentioned – Sergio, Scutaro, and Sandoval really epitomize how cool this season was.
Sergio Romo, former setup guy/specialist with Wilson as the closer steps in (along with Santiago Casilla) to anchor the back of the Giants bullpen. Saves games by striking out the side. Celebrates like nobody’s business. Has fun on the field. Gets the last out in the rain in the NLCS. Gets the last out of the World Series by striking out Miguel Cabrera. Priceless.
Marco Scutaro, the guy the Giants traded for that nobody thought about. Plays a solid rest of the season, and then simply explodes in the NLCS. Every time he came up, I thought he could get on base. Swung and missed at only 14 or 15 pitches all season. Batted .500 against the cardinals, and fielded everything. Hit the game-winning single against the Tigers in Game 4. Refuses to answer questions about the Matt Holliday slide after winning the NLCS, instead opting to thank God, his teammates, and the fans. Class act.
Pablo Sandoval, went 0 for 4 in his only World Series appearance in 2010. Broke his hand twice in the last two years. Criticized for his weight and on-field performance. Plays stellar defense at third base. Hits three home runs in Game 1 of the World Series, including TWO of Justin Verlander, possibly the best pitcher in the league. My kids recognized him every time he showed up, yelling “Kung Fu Panda!”
The crazy thing is, the list could go on – every member of the starting lineup contributed to a win via the bat or the glove. Every starter on the staff contributed in a big way. It really was team baseball at its best. 2010 was special, and 2012 was better yet.
Oh yeah, I got to go to Game 2 of the World Series. That was pretty special.
Giants Fever at Game 2. Panasonic GX1, Lumix 14mm f/2.5.
People who haven’t seen me a while often ask if I’ve lost some weight. Known for such phrases “I can’t stop eating!” while in college, I can say that the answer is a resounding yes! Since about 2009, I’ve managed to lose almost 30 pounds, going from about 183 (which my doctor at the time told me qualified as “slightly overweight”) to a present-day 155 (right in the sweet spot of a healthy BMI for me). But I didn’t exactly intend to do that. How in the world did that happen? Here’s a summary of the lifestyle changes I’ve made in the last three years that I think have helped shed those excess pounds:
Around early 2009 or so, I made the decision to stop using cream and sugar in my coffee. Cold turkey. I loved the taste, but realized that dumping all that half and half and pure sucrose into my frequent cups of coffee wasn’t doing me any favors. I’ve been drinking my coffee black ever since.
I started eating primarily whole grain bread instead of processed enriched flour whenever I could. This impacts me especially since I eat a lot of sandwiches. Our homemade sourdough usually uses white flour, but we also sometimes mix in whole wheat flour as well.
I essentially stopped eating at McDonald’s, except for the occasional fries or McChicken (no mayo). But I do mean occasional – I used to eat there pretty frequently, say once a week or so.
I started bringing my lunch, a lot. Like sandwiches every single day at work, so that my co-workers are thrown off when I’m eating something other than a sandwich. No mayo.
From spring to fall in 2009 and 2010, I biked to work occasionally, meaning I would bike in to work one day, and bike home from work the next day. Add in the days I felt lazy and rode the bus instead, that added up to maybe 2 to 3 bike rides across the city a week for those warmer months.
I cut down my soda intake to one regular and one diet soda a week from about 2010 to early 2012. Then, earlier this year as part of a Lent fast, I cut all high fructose corn syrup drinks entirely. That left me with maybe one real sugar soda a week (I also dispensed with the diet sodas), which I’ve now also basically dropped. I’ve continued the high fructose corn syrup fast beyond Easter.
We started changing our family diet to include a lot more veggies and real food.
And that’s it! I wasn’t intending to, but I ended up losing a lot of extra weight! I could still use some cardio exercise, but other than that, just a handful of simple lifestyle changes over time led to a good, healthy shift.
Over the last few months, there have been a number of books have been extremely influential in how the Kuos think, eat, and live. If you want to get a little deeper into the why and how of some the different things that Marcia and I post, here’s a relatively short read (just finished it yesterday on the bus!) that is well worth your time!
In Michael Pollan’s In Defense of Food, he makes a compelling case in just a couple hundred pages for his simple mantra for eating: “Eat food. Not too much. Mostly plants.” There’s so much packed into that statement, but it’s so true – the Western diet has made an alarming shift away from real foods (fruits, vegetables, whole grains, real meat [not crazy stuff like McDonald’s burgers which can contain parts of up to 100 cows per patty!]) to heavily processed foods that put in all sorts of weird stuff you can pronounce and strip away many of the original food’s vital nutrients. Here are two particularly challenging quotes from the book:
“The human animal is adapted to, and apparently can thrive on, an extraordinary range of different diets, but the Western diet, however you define it, does not seem to be one of them.” (Pollan, 100)
“When most of us think about food and health, we think in fairly narrow nutritionist terms–about our personal physical health and how the ingestion of this particular nutrient or rejection of that affects it. But I no longer think it’s possible to separate our bodily health from the health of the environment from which we eat or the environment in which we eat or, for that matter, from the health of our general outlook about food (and health). If my explorations of the food chain have taught me anything, it’s that it is a food chain, and all the links in it are in fact linked: the health of the soil to the health of the plants and animals we eat to the health of the food culture in which we eat them to the health of the eater, in body as well as mind.” (Pollan, 144)
For us, this book helped us connect a lot of dots about why organic food matters, the importance of eating meals together, the value of grass fed beef, and the massive interconnectedness of it all to not only the health of our family, but of this world that God has given us.
Go grab a copy at your local library or bookstore and give it a read! I’d be more than happy to chat about it with you. And for those who are so inclined, you can also check out his talk at Google back in 2008 talking about this very book: